3 ways to respond to curveballs you didnt see coming

3 ways to respond to curveballs you didnt see coming3 ways to respond to curveballs you didnt see comingI thought it welches going to be a normal update call. I thought I was going to hear a little bit of interesting news about how our project was moving forward. Lets just say I got all of that and more, way more. My face was already in my hands crying by the time I hit end on my phone screen.Not because the news was bad, but because I wasnt expecting it. I didnt see this coming. And for a project I cared about deeply, it was not exactly how I would have picked it all to go. But I got wrapped up in my head, about how this wasnt the plan, and about all of the things that would be different because of the new direction. I wallowed in 24 good straight hours of freaking the fuck out.Look at the bright side my friend said to me. And then proceeded to list out the seven different ways that this could be a really, really great thing. Like a spectacularly good thing. Like maybe the best of b oth worlds pre- and post-curveball.So lesson number one call your most positive friend for the bright side that you know youll get from herI responded to that friend with But this wasnt how it was supposed to go. I realized though that the more we resist the change, the more friction we cause for ourselves. Because we cannot cannot cannot control how and when things happen. The more we think we can, the more frustration were bound to experience.So lesson number two lean into changeItll help you get closer to the bright side quicker.I guess this isnt the worst thing, I said to myself once I calmed down, and proceeded to come up with two different scenarios that could have been way worse in buchen to make myself feel better. Most times curveballs arent the worst. Theyre simply a changeup you didnt see coming. So if its not the worst thing, then dont act like it is just because it wasnt your exact plan or timeline.Lesson number three dont get apocalyptic about curveballsAnd remind your self this isnt the end, this is just the change.Youre bound to get curveballs thrown your way, simply because youre alive. Sometimes things will march according to plan, but most times they wont. You wont see them coming, but you do have full ownership over what magic you get to create with them. Often a change of plans is whats needed to get to exactly where we need to be.This article was originally posted on MaxieMcCoy.com.